Really. What’s So Wrong With Eating Your Feelings? Because Mine Taste AWESOME.
What is happening with the world right now?
There are political figures trying to tell me what I can and can’t do with my body, there are people trying to sell me my own intellectual property, and there are princes getting naked all over Vegas but really, no one’s blaming Harry on that last one because who doesn’t want to get naked all over Vegas?
I think there’s just such an overload of fodder out there right now — and such a lack of focus on my part — that I tend to get overwhelmed and rather than talk to anyone ever, I instead opt to curl up on my sofa with a couple of mangy mutts, a glass of Zinfandel, and a streamed movie on Netflix that I didn’t realize was subtitled until 10 minutes in.
In other words, I have a lot of time to think.
There comes a time in most unpaid, extreme ADD blog writers’ “careers,” when the writer must evaluate the situation and make a choice. MY situation is that I’ve been doing this for almost 2 1/2 years, and barely anyone reads Domestiphobia.
Like at all.
And I love those of you who do — you’re like the validation I never got in high school. The prom date, the braces removal, and the boob development all in one, confidence-boosting package. (I actually did end up getting those last two — just not until it was too late to be enjoyed in high school.) It makes me feel like maybe I do have a niche. Like maybe there are some people in this world who get me, and even if you don’t, you still like watching me through that thick zoo glass from the relative safety and comfort of your swivel office chair.
And that’s okay, too.
So that’s my situation.
Therefore my choices, as I see them, are to:
a) Keep doing what I’m doing
c) Pick a focus and work to improve
d) Eat a sandwich.
I’m pretty sure, if you know me at all, (and if you’ve been reading for any length of time, rest assured that you DO know me), then you know which one I choose.
Don’t give up Katie, please don’t! I tried a couple years to write a weekly column (this was in the mid-2000s prior to blogs becoming popular) and was published in one newspaper and on my website. I religiously sent out packets to local papers then moved up to sending to others, never hearing anything back. I lost hope after a couple years. Even though there were *some* readers who really liked some of my columns.
I finally gave up. Much to my surprise, almost a year after I quit, I experienced some email/inbox/server/hosting issues and when it was resolved with the company, I accessed a certain email account (that I thought I’d been accessing all along) and guess what? Five, count ’em, FIVE newspapers had responded to my snail mail queries asking if I’d like to be a regular.
Validation and frustration all wrapped up in one bitter sweet package. And I knew it was too late.
In my situation, I took what happened as perhaps it was meant for me to pursue something else.
In yours, if you keep writing, you’ll get more readers! Build it and they will come!
Keep the faith.
Oh, my. I think I would throw up if that happened to me. But thank you for the perspective, and the encouragement. I think I just need to get focused on what my goals are here, you know?
I read your blogs..:)
That is awesome. THANK YOU! :)
For what it’s worth, your readership may be higher than you think. Because your email subscriptions send out the entirety of your posts, people who subscribe through email may never actually visit your site unless they click over to comment, so Analytics or WordPress won’t register those reads.
It’s part of the reason why my email subscriptions are set to send out only an excerpt. It gives me a better way to track my readership. ;-)
True, true. And even if I don’t have sheer numbers, it’s kind of cool that I have these individual long-time readers. My little web family. :)
(P.S. I’m still trying to figure out this whole issue with having to type redundant info every time you want to subscribe to follow-up comments…)
Don’t quit! You’re one of my favourite bloggers.
Awesome comment. :) Thank you Stephanie!!
I read! Most of the time, I read it on Google Reader, so you may not know I’m always creeping around your blog…
Amy! Next time I go to NYC, I’m hitting you up.
Maybe it is taking longer than you’d like, but it will happen. You didn’t believe me when I said you’re braces will come off and your boobs would come in, but it happened, didn’t it? Prom? Big deal. I went to prom. But you’ve lived more, seen more, experienced more in your 30 years (minus 49 days) than I have in my 60 years. Except for having raised 3 exceptional kids! Listen to your mother!
Thanks, mom — for the boob genes and the encouragement. ;)
What a great Mother!!!
She has her moments. ;)
I love your blog! :)
Thanks, Andi! I love yours!! (I’m not sure why, but a couple of your comments got sent to my spam folder! Sorry about that!)
I know I have been too quiet but you do have a great blog and on a side note you make “D” look like the best most appealing choice of them all
“D” most definitely WAS the most appealing choice! :)
Numbers are just that…numbers. What makes it completely worth it to me is the ‘web family’. Look at the people you’ve met because of this (Catherine, Dennis, others I may not know about).
And your blogging inspired me to take a crack at it.
I’m like your Padawan and you’re my Jedi Master.
You are very, very right. I’ve met some pretty awesome people! And I’m glad you’re blogging — you just need to get more regular about it!
(And Justin will be totally jealous you called me a Jedi.) ;)
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