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Once A Doodle, Always A Doodle.

When I was twenty-years-old, I met a boy.

Less than a year later, when I was twenty-one, I was moving across state lines to live with him in Georgia, where he was stationed with the Air Force.

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(The first time I saw him in his battle dress uniform, I knew I’d made the right decision.)

I knew virtually nothing about Georgia before I moved there, gathering what little intel I could from Ray Charles lyrics and faint memories of what I learned about the Civil War from high school history classes.

Also, I knew they had a lot of peaches.

The thing, though, is that my lack of knowledge made Georgia exciting. I landed a job waitressing at Texas Roadhouse where I learned to say things like, “I’m fixin’ to go home” instead of, “I’m going home,” where the birthday song was, “Fried chicken, country hog, it’s your birthday — YEEHAW!” and where, the first time a customer ordered sweet tea (which was about 5.7 seconds into my first shift), I said, “You mean an iced tea?” To which the customer promptly replied, “You ain’t from around here, are you?”

My ignorance of all things southern quickly earned me the nickname Doodle — as in Yankee — and the more I absorbed the culture around me, the more I turned into a dialectual mutt of sorts. The way my neutral Nebraskan accent mixed with the way I pronounced my Minnesohta “o’s” and the over-enunciation I never outgrew from my childhood (it was always “curtain” not “curt’n”) took on a bit of a southern twang until finally one day, in my hurry to clear a table so I could seat the next guests, a y’all slipped out of my mouth, and I knew The South was beginning to take a hold. Customers started looking at me strangely about halfway through their dinners, and that’s about when the inevitable, “Where’re you from?” questions started, followed with something like, “Nebraska and Minnesota, eh? Those’re somewhere’n the middle, right?” smile-and-a-winkyface.

And so.

As time has worn on, I’ve learned to accept my mutt-like status. To embrace it, even, because it represents my ability to learn and to grow and to assimilate — or, at the very least, to appreciate.

So I think it’s fairly safe to say that I have pretty mixed feelings about our upcoming move.

On the one hand, Virginia is still, technically speaking, The South. It was ten years ago that Justin convinced me to move with him to Georgia. Then, after much anticipation, we found out we were moving to North Carolina. And now, after much more anticipation, it looks like The South is continuing its vicegrip hold, though it does feel like we’re slowly managing to slip northward from its grasp.

And look. It’s not like I don’t like The South. In fact, in the winter, I kind of love her. But still, after ten years, she still feels a bit foreign to me. From boiled peanuts to broiling summers and never being able to buy alcohol on Sundays in the region of the U.S. known for the craziest football fanatics, I just don’t quite fit.

And the fact that we’re still here — and will continue to be here — makes me wonder if I’ll ever get the chance to discover where I do fit.

Here, I’m always a Doodle.

And so I’m very ready for a change — even if it’s only just far enough to force me to get a new drivers license.

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In fact, when I think about it, I’m always ready for change. Stagnancy and I just don’t get along.

I’m terrified of tradition and when I feel things not changing in my life, it’s almost as though I can see the hours ticking away — like I’ve swallowed the very same crocodile’s clock that taunted Captain Hook and I understand, truly, why he was such a crazy bastard.

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And also, I’ve always been a mover. Not just via the military, but also by choice.

Call me crazy, but I like being the new girl. I like not knowing anyone. I like exploring a new place and getting lost on new roads — discovering new restaurants and mispronouncing street names. Moving, for me, is like longer-term travel with a misguided sense of permanence. So even though we’re only moving four hours away, which — if you know me at all — you know has caused a wee bit of frustration, it’s still good because it’s something new-ish.

I may still be a Doodle, but I’ll be a Virginia Doodle.

And that’s something I’ve never been before.

How about you? Are you rooted to one place, or do you enjoy a good move? Should the government be able to tell us when we can and cannot support our alcoholic tendencies? Does anyone actually like boiled peanuts? Am I weird? Wait. Don’t answer that last one. I think I already know.

Katie

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Fe
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Love this one! :) You’ve highlighted a label for me: a mutt. I can relate to that. I grew up in the South, but I don’t have an accent. Parents aren’t from the South either. Crazy dynamics. I love to see (and live in) new places and I’m also finding that change is very good. I’m seriously loving Ann Arbor and the metro Detroit area. Who knew? However, I have a feeling I’ll be closer to the South before I’m old and gray! I hope, Katie, that you can continue to be the new girl in some capacity. I share your view on complacency. I’ve noticed my happiness drops off when complacency takes hold!

Katie
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“Complacency” is SUCH a great word to describe it. Though it seems like we’re all constantly struggling to get “there,” wherever “there” is, I don’t know… theoretically, wouldn’t the arrival actually be quite boring? :) I’m so glad you’re exploring! Even if you end up back in the south, which has a lot of fine traits, at least you’ll know that’s where you belong by way of comparison. Good for you!!

Stephanie
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I used to move a lot when I was younger. Haven’t moved in a while, and that feels weird. But Vancouver is a pretty good city to be in, so I’m ok. The idea of figuring out a new job and all that seems exhausting now.

Katie
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You know, I think once I find a place that feels right, I won’t have issues getting a little rooted. :)

Stephanie
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Maybe. I think there’s a type of person who will always wonder about the next town though.

Katie
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Yeah… I’ll probably always wonder, but I’m hoping against hope I won’t be inclined to move. :)

Andi
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I looove moving and change! If I didn’t love my family as much as I do, there’s no way I would stay permanently in Charlotte. Doodle is such a cute name btw!

Katie
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Charlotte is a beautiful city, so I guess if you want to stay close to family, there are definitely worse places they could live. :)

Mark
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Have fun Katie with new adventures and new places to explore.

Katie
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You know what? I think I might! :)

NovaBlast
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You know if you didn’t move travel and well ,,,just being you,,,,, you really wouldn’t have much to blog about and it would be a shame to let your natural writing talent go to waste I know the 4 hour move wasn’t your “dream” but i’m sure that won’t stop you from have new adventures so again i wish you both the best with it.

Katie
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This is one of the best comments ever and exactly what I needed to hear. :)

Meg
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I LOVE being in a new place but totally HATE the process of packing and unpacking. I have moved many times but my current location has been for the longest time – almost 7 years now. I think you are SO lucky to be going where you are – you will be right next to the ocean and nothing changes as much as water. I live on the shore of Lake Michigan and it amazes me every day. :)

Katie
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Last time we did the move ourselves. This time I’m making the military do it. Just one of the perks. :) And thanks – now you’ve made me waste an hour looking at waterfront homes I can’t afford! =P

Liz
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I am a CA girl living in NC, and totally relate to your feelings about the south! This is our second time down here, with two years in NY thrown between four years in GA and our current location. I’m used to it now, but I don’t think I will ever feel like I belong here. The idea of moving doesn’t bother me. Getting resettled every time is a pain though! Things like finding a new job, a hairstylist, a grocery store, etc. get me every time we move.

Katie
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Finding a new hairstylist is the WORST! That, and finding radio stations I can get into — it always seems like such a hassle. :) Sigh. CA is definitely on my list of potential places to retire!

shelly@ohshellsbells
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I moved around so much as a child I don’t know which place qualifies as my “from” place. The past 9 years I’ve been in Ohio so I guess this could be where I’m “from?” I need someone to define this for me. At any rate, I’ve been here so long I feel antsy, ready to try on a new city! I’m jealous of your move, even if its only 4 hours away!

Katie
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You know, I moved right at that definitive age of 13, so I never know I I’m “from” the place I lived when I was little, or the place where I went to middle and high school. I have no family either of those places anymore, so it feels a little how you must feel — kind of rootless. I guess that’s why we try to make our own, right? :)

shelly@ohshellsbells
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i moved when i was 13 too. actually i was moving from texas to florida ON my 13th birthday! so traumatic for my new teenage self. but yes totally agree, been doing my best to establish myself and a little community where i currently am, but its so hard to ignore that gypsy side of me. it’s what i know.

Katie
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The gypsy cannot be ignored. She can only be sated with the occasional road trip or vacation. And, if you’re really desperate, another move. :)

Ashlie
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You can only rearrange the furniture so many times before it’s time to pack it all up and get on down the road. Here’s to being the new girl!!

Katie
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Woohoo! It’s definitely time to pack. :)

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