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Top Empowering Songs For The Domestiphobe In All Of Us.

Okay, here. You know how sometimes you just feel alone? Not necessarily in a boo-hoo-I-don’t-have-anyone-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-so-I’m-going-to-waste-my-years-being-miserable-before-I-die-alone kind of way but more of an existential wow-no-one-really-gets-me-and-I-guess-I-really-am-responsible-for-my-own-happiness kind of way?

When all you really need is a great song to lift your spirits and remind you, just like in the movies, that we may be alone but we’re all alone in this together?


Relief is here, my friends, because I have compiled a list of eleven of my favorite empowering songs.


Songs for the free spirit. For the person who doesn’t want to live a stagnant life. For the Domestiphobe in all of us.

These are not breakup songs, because “breaking up” implies sadness. Heartache. Breaking. And since Justin and I are still happily married, breakup songs aren’t what I need. And they shouldn’t be what you need, either – regardless of your relationship status.

What you need is empowerment. What you need is inspiration. What you need, above all else, is self-acceptance.

Because how can anyone else ever love you if you don’t love yourself?

I will not say this is a complete list of the top spirit-lifting songs of all time because, hey. This was what I could come up with before noon on a Tuesday. But these are what immediately spring forth when I reach for that boombox in the back of my mind — the dusty black one with dual speakers and giant plastic buttons and a handle on top for easy transport.

These are what I reach for when I need to belt something at the top of my lungs and when people give me strange looks on the highway.

But it’s totally — totally — worth it:

“You Gotta Be” – Des’ree

I figured I’d put my Number One go-to empowering song right up front. This is it, guys. The song that gets me through. The song that has launched countless road trips and grocery store runs. The song that sits confidently at the head of a disc I burned back in 2002 for a 5,500 mile circuit of the American West and still finds its way back to The Tracker’s CD player (yes, I still have a CD player) at least once every couple of months to this day. Des’ree reminds me that I gotta be cool. I gotta be calm. I gotta stay together. She knows that love will find a way.

I hope she’s right.

“Born This Way” – Lady Gaga

This is the most modern song on my list, but I didn’t feel right leaving it out. I mean… it kind of encompasses the very idea of self-acceptance. Of saying, “There’s nothin’ wrong with lovin’ who you are.” And there’s not. I know this. Lady Gaga knows this. Do you?

“Melody” – Kate Earl

There’s a good chance you haven’t actually heard of Kate Earl. If this is the case, allow me to introduce you. Kate’s sweet voice is here to remind you if your skin is warm and your heart is full, life’s really not as bad as you might think.

“Holiday” – Green Day

If I am in the car and this song comes on the radio, it will get turned up. To obnoxious levels. I don’t care if you’re trying to sleep. I don’t care if you’re trying to read. I don’t care if your eardrums start to bleed. This song will be heard in the only way it’s meant to be heard.


“My Life” – Billy Joel

Look, make fun of me all you want, but Billy Joel is the man. Way before Green Day went all anarchist and Lady Gaga had her monsters, Billy knew what was what. He knew he couldn’t tell me what to do.

“It’s My Life” – Bon Jovi

Not to be confused with Mr. Joel’s “My Life,” Bon Jovi makes it clear: “This ain’t a song for the broken hearted,” he says. And it’s not. It’s about living while you’re alive. About having no regrets. About living in the moment. It’s one big fat giant cliché of a song and I love it.

“You Can Go Your Own Way” – Fleetwood Mac

Okay, so this one might actually be about a breakup. I’m not sure. But all you need to do is listen to the chorus. If the chorus doesn’t make you smile, I really don’t know what will.

“Bitch” – Meredith Brooks

Speaking of erratic women

“Float On” – Modest Mouse

This song is all about learning to relax and go with the flow. Tranquilo. Everything will work out in the end.

“Goodbye Stranger” – Supertramp

So it’s very likely this song might actually be about quitting marijuana, though I’m not entirely convinced that a band named Supertramp would ever consider such a thing, so we’re going on the assumption that when he sings, “Goodbye, Mary – Goodbye, Jane,” that he’s actually saying goodbye to the various women in his life and those names are pure coincidence. Anyway. This is more of a “goodbye” song – maybe even a breakup song – but I included it to encompass all of those songs that are sad-yet-empowering in their own right — “Yellow Brick Road” and “Rocket Man” by Elton John, “Free Bird” by Lynyrd Skynard, and of course “Free Falling” by Tom Petty.

Anyway, it makes me smile.

And finally, an eleventh bonus song. I heard it on the radio the other day, and still — still! — it makes me laugh. It brings me joy. It erases disdain and reminds me to hold on to the ones who really care.

“MMMBop” – Hanson

It also makes me wonder what it was about that long blonde hair that got our panties all up in a twist.

So how about you? What are your go-to empowering songs? What obvious ones did I miss?


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Ok so I’m a dork. Admittedly. And I love finding cool new people to obsess over. (Stop shaking your head) So when this chick opened her blind audition with Natalie Imbruglia’s ‘Torn’ on The Voice I knew she was going to win. And she did. (I love being right.) Now, I listen to country music & I sorta knew this song but now that she’s covered it – it’s become an anthem. Oh and she has a cool teeny bopperish song with lyrics that would pretty much explain all of womenkind to men – if they listened to this kinda noise. Anyhow, thanks for the nostalgic earworms & introduction to a couple new obsessions.


I don’t listen to a lot of country (though Justin is trying his best to change that), so thanks for sharing that song! Great lyrics. The lyrics on that teeny bopperish song were super cute, too! (And oh-so-true.) But I’ll tell you what – I listened to her rendition of Torn and GOOSEBUMPS. Incredible. She sounded amazing.


I love that you put Hanson in there!!! :)


That song makes me so happy. :)


How did I forget about “Three Little Birds”????


Okay… since I was 10 I have always believed that nothing lifts my spirits like Warrior by Patty Smyth. Seriously can you beat the lyrics “I don’t wanna tame your animal style. You won’t be caged in the call of the wild”? Plus I love yelling “BANG! BANG!” I must admit though I have a weakness for strong women/dance songs that i can drum to in my car ie Titanium by Sia. I love every single gun metaphor in that song and trust me there are plenty.
However if you want something inspiring, sweet and poppy then it has to be four leaf clover by abra Moore. Two words. Lilith Fair. Try not to bounce when you listen to it. I’m not sure it’s possible.;) and finally
Hold on-Wilson Philips. Yes. Don’t ever let anyone step all over you. and Break free. break from the chains. There are many more but I thought of those ones first.


I looooove Wilson Philips! They were one of my first cassette tapes.

omg I’m old.

Moving on.

Jeannine Bruner

So so many to choose from. I’m a huge music odd ball. I would have to say Rollin in the Deep is up there. CCR has a few good ones, I concur with the Three Little Birds comment ( my kids sing along- I’m a cool mom), NKoTB, ice ice baby, defying gravity (wicked) oh I could go on. :)


Love me some CCR! And hey – if NKoTB and Vanilla Ice are empowering for you, then who am I to argue? ;) (I WILL turn them up if they happen to come on the radio, so there ya go.)


Thank you for including Bon Jovi. (and yes, I completely agree).


You’re welcome. :)

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