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And We’ll All Float On.

It’s that time of year again.


I can’t believe it either.

The first iteration of The Hobbit movie lasted longer than last year did. Hell. The first scene in that movie — when they’re all cooking dinner presumably in real-time — lasted longer than last year did.

For me, twenty-fourteen was like a first-time sexual encounter — pioneering, exciting, and way, way too short.

But I’m happy to report that at least in my case, I think that’s because I actually did in 2014 what I set out to do in 2014 without even really thinking about it because guess what? Not thinking about it is exactly what I set out to do. Kind of.


On Letting Go

See, after reading one of those you-have-to-do-this-before-the-end-of-the-year-or-you’re-going-to-die-miserable-and-alone kind of articles while not drinking by myself on New Year’s Eve last year, I discovered a little burst of clarity. The idea is that I was supposed to let go — let go of the guilt I felt for being so wishy-washy with my aspirations, and let go of trying to figure out how to make things happen and just let them happen.

Apparently that song from Frozen got sucked into the black hole of my subconsciousness and just stayed there. Which is kind of ironic because I sort of disliked that movie for the awful parents and the sisters not talking and that weird creepy snowman. I actually thought I was the only person in existence who didn’t like it until we visited my cousin over Christmas and learned that her 2 1/2-year-old daughter dislikes it even more than I do. She hates it, even. So much so that we’d chase her around the house saying, “Natalie, do you want to watch Frozen?” and then laugh while she’d scream “Nooo!” and scamper off in search of less asinine people to hang out with.


It was great.


The first professional thing I did in 2014 was apply for a job. A real job with an amazing company for which I’d have been able to work remotely from home or Zimbabwe or the coffee shop in Newport News City Center. I made it through several interviews and had even practiced typing the name of my new company into the “About Me” section of Facebook once or twice without hitting “publish” until — spoiler alert — I didn’t get it.

And so the first unprofessional thing I did in 2014 was publicly whine about it and the rest of my crushed dreams while quoting Dumb and Dumber in emails to my interviewers and lamenting about having to spin my arugula in batches.

It wasn’t exactly a high point.

At that point I gave up all hope of working towards my dream career, let alone figuring out how to find it.


And that, m’dears, is when it found me.


I was approached by someone who’d been reading my blog for some time, and she was looking for a virtual assistant to help with her interior design business. So I peeled myself off of the floor, sent her my resume, and did my best to verify that she wasn’t under the influence of mind-altering substances. (I mean, she read my blog and still wanted to hire me — you can’t blame me for being suspicious.) After a couple of phone chats and even a visit to meet with her in D.C., we discovered that we work very well together and, even more surprising, virtual assisting works very well for me.


My schedule is flexible, the pay is nice, I work mostly from home, and I finally have a chance to utilize many of the skills I’ve accrued over the years — from graphic design to website dabbling to spreadsheet management — which allowed me to clear the cobwebs from some dusty corners of my brain and start feeling a sense of purpose again.

I’ve recently taken on an additional client/employer in a very different creative field, and I do believe that good things lie ahead in my newfound career.


Lest We Forget

If you recall, I was also supposed to prioritize last year. “Prioritization” was my word for 2014. How’d I do? I’d say fairly well, considering my first priority was to just let things happen.

In fact, when I look back on my list of goals from last year, I actually managed to make significant progress on quite a few of them just by getting started and not trying so damn hard all of the time.


check Learn to play acoustic guitar.

I learned and then forgot exactly one song. But that totally counts, right?


check Earn a living wage as a full-time blogger.

Surprisingly, the thing I thought I wanted the most is no longer a viable goal of mine. I’ve spent some time over the last year learning what I can from the pros, and what I learned is that I love blogging. And if I want to continue to love it, I probably shouldn’t make it my career. And guess what? It’s totally okay to cross goals off of your list when they cease to apply.


check Travel the world.

Since it’s unrealistic to travel (and enjoy) the entire world in just one year, I picked just one country, Italy, and took cooking classes from a professional chef. I’d say that’s a good start.



check Figure out how to keep fingernail polish looking nice for longer than 18 hours.

It’s called a top coat. Done.


check Completely update this 1957 brick ranch on a budget.

We’ve tackled and (mostly) finished our most ambitious project for this house — the kitchen. It still needs paint and a few finishing touches, but the progress is fantastic. My goal is to finish most of the rest of the house by the end of 2015.



collaboration Subscribe to — and actually read, bookmark, and execute vacations and recipes from — at least three culinary and/or travel magazines.

I have a subscription to AFAR, I’ve bought several issues of Saveur, and I have an entire stack of Travel & Leisure from Justin’s aunt. I love them all, but so far most of them have done little more than decorate my end tables.


collaboration Write a series of children’s books for my friend Jenn to illustrate.

On hold, but not forgotten.


check Become a better cook.

Yeah… those cooking classes in Italy didn’t hurt.


check Thoroughly explore my new part of the country.

From that ashram in the mountains to stand-up paddle boarding in Virginia Beach, I’m off to a pretty good start.



check Walk my dogs and/or work out daily.

Admittedly this didn’t happen every day, but I’m happy with my level of commitment.


collaboration Stop wasting so much time.

While I’m working to change my attitude about multitasking, I still need to get better at not doing it. Much better.


check Consider getting a real job so I can earn my keep and justify doing any of the above.

And it fell right into my lap.


On Moving On

It’s only right that I pick a word for 2015, and considering how good it feels to just let things happen, only one word really feels right:




Not like placidly atop a stagnant pond but, you know, with a current. Sometimes the coasting will be fast, sometimes it will be slow, and sometimes it will require a good paddle here and there to pull myself out of the inevitable doldrums. I have a few goals I’d like to work on:

  • Write more.
  • Be genuinely happy for people. (Envy is a serious creative buzzkill.)
  • Accept the curveballs.
  • Travel.
  • Figure out and embrace my personal style.
  • Get the house ready for re-sale.

The experts always say you need to have specific goals, but I think this realm of vaguery works better for me. I’m tired of constantly struggling against the current, bereaving the plans that never worked out. This way I’ll always be going somewhere, but I’m finally willing to accept the fact that I can’t control everything about where that place is.

It doesn’t mean I’ve lost ambition.

It doesn’t mean I won’t have dreams.

It just means I’m better equipped to handle them.


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Katie!!! This is a fabulous list! Good for you for setting attainable goals and reaching them, and forgiving yourself for not reaching ALL of them. Forgiving yourself is a huge success in itself! I find that I also need vague goals. I am, admittedly though reluctantly, a planner. I set goals and make a plan, but then I get so wrapped up in the planning and get more and more detailed, then I’m down a rabbit hole of decisions and get overwhelmed and often end up giving up on said goal before I even get started. All of a sudden I’ve talked myself out of doing something because it’s “really complicated” when all I’ve done is make it really difficult in my mind. That should be my goal for 2015, to stop planning and just let it go, like you said! I think that will make my life a lot more peaceful and less mentally and emotionally turbulent. And I just came up with this after reading your article. Thank you as always for sharing! I do hope you continue to write because I loooove your blog! Happy 2015! Cheers!


Thanks, Carrie! You’re very right about forgiveness. I’m usually very much the same when it comes to goals — I’ve tried to control everything and became incredibly indecisive — always worried I’d make the wrong choice or take the wrong path. It’s SUCH a relief to learn to coast. It’s good to have goals, but keeping them fluid is a lot less stressful for people like us. :)


I too, hate Frozen. Gosh just when I think I cant like you any more, haha. I mean why’d they make her conceal her magic? WTF were those little troll people randomly wedged into the movie for? So many glaring errors. UGH. OK sorry about the Frozen rant. I love this recap and am really impressed with your attitude towards blogging and just life in general. Getting a job that you like with good people is just such a blessing. Crappy jobs and sexual harrassy! bosses are the worst! And since you got your awesome job through blogging, couldn’t we technically count this as being paid to blog… kinda? hope your 2015 is full of more travels!


“And since you got your awesome job through blogging, couldn’t we technically count this as being paid to blog… kinda?” < -- I knew I liked the way you think. ;) And yeah — I guess the lesson with Frozen is that it’s BAD to consult tiny troll people when it comes to your teenager’s social issues, and it’s even worse to teach your kids to hide who they are, but I’m really not sure that came across as clearly as it could have, what with all of the bitterness and wasted years. Seriously, Disney? Could you get more depressing?


Yay! Loving this post and your approach to resolutions and goal setting. You ROCK on so many levels and I could never survive without you!


I don’t believe that, but I’m going to let you go on thinking it for job security. ;) (And no, YOU rock!)

Colleen Brynn

What I found refreshing about Frozen was the fact that the sister who had supposedly fallen in love with that prince charming was appropriately duped later on. However those damn parents were so annoying! I had a wee chuckle about the toddle running away from those threat, haha!
Congrats on your successes this year and for not being too hard on yourself! I struggle with that all the time!


Yes! Props to them for no longer making their female leads solely focus on finding Prince Charming. Good point! And I love that they’re bringing musicals back. My favorite has always been Beauty and the Beast, and I was so sad when I realized newer Disney movies weren’t musicals.

Maybe for 2015 you should focus on not being so hard on yourself, either. We should treat ourselves the way we want others to treat us. If you’re constantly talking down to yourself, how do you think that affects your spirit? :)


Great post Katie – I am proud of you for all that you have accomplished (and admittedly a little jealous as I would love to be happy with my job and to travel more). I’m finally applying for a Masters Program, so here’s hoping I can make some progress on long standing goals in 2015 as well. Wish me luck and keep being an inspiration (yeah, I know that sounded a bit corny, but whatever!) :)


Suzy, GOOD LUCK with the Masters Program!! Not that you need it — you’re brilliant and resourceful, and I have no doubt you’ll achieve what you set out to accomplish. You can say “I wish” all you want, but until you start taking those baby steps to change it, nothing will ever actually change. You of all people know it’s taken me a LONG time to figure that out. And just remember — if you keep putting something off because you wish you’d started a year ago, a year from now you’ll wish you’d started today. ;)


Aw. So happy for you. Sounds like you did really well this year. A bit jealous, as my return to work after 10 months has prompted a major career crisis that has me utterly flummoxed. Also, you went to Italy, which is one my my favourite places.


Well, maybe this means it’s time to start considering a change…? Give it some time, at first, to make sure what you’re experiencing isn’t just culture shock. (Though knowing you, I’m sure you’ve already thought about this thoroughly.) Italy really was incredible — I’m already trying to figure out ways to get back. :)

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